Parents make mistakes, even with the best intentions in mind. After all, nobody’s perfect and we’re just humans. Since we all want to shape our children for the better, take a look at these common parental mistakes to avoid.
- Giving In to Every Tantrum
Babies and toddlers cannot tell us exactly what they need, so they cry to convey the message that they may be hungry, sick, wet, or uncomfortable. When this happens, we give in to cries to pacify them. However, when a child reaches two years old, parents have to be more discriminating of a child’s cry.
While it’s easier to give in to their whims, it does more harm than good. A child won’t learn self-control and always depend on others to provide him with everything he needs, which he could carry into his adulthood.
- Being Overprotective
Children are curious—they are eager to explore, test, and learn. From age two to seven, children start learning about cause and effect. Not allowing them to observe or experiment at an early age will hinder them from learning the effects of certain actions. When they get older, they will feel afraid to explore.
- Ignoring a Child’s Queries
Children are always curious and inquisitive because they want to learn everything surrounding them. They ask a lot of questions, even about the simplest things. Some parents find children’s concern too petty and ignore these queries. Not answering these questions teaches the child not to express himself. He’ll learn to hide his feelings and develop poor communication and socialization skills in the future.
- Criticizing a Child’s Action
Children need more understanding and patience than criticism and regulation. Kids who are constantly criticized may develop poor self-confidence, as well as obsessive-compulsive disorder in their adulthood. They may become perfectionists or they may always doubt their capabilities and feel that whatever they do will never be good enough for their parents.
- Leaving the Child Too Frequently to Your Parents
This becomes harmful when your child sees his grandparents as the head of the family instead of his own parents. This is most evident when it comes to making house rules. For instance, when a child asks permission to go out, and the grandfather say yes but the father said no, the child will most likely follow his grandfather whom he considers as his parent. Later on, when the child reaches his teenage years, he’ll experience confusion.
If you happen to be guilty of any of these mistakes (well, most of us are at one point or another), don’t worry too much. There’s always time to change things for the better. Take one step at a time and you’ll be closer to shaping your child to a better person.