Influencing Our Teen’s Behaviour: How to Curb Alcohol Addiction  


When our children were young, we can influence their behaviours (since they are gullible) but when they grow up and learn things, disciplining them gets harder. Parenting is not that easy but we should never give up. When our teens give up, they have only us to rely and help them get back on their feet.

Woman And Her Teenage Daughter

As much as possible, we do not want them to be introduced to any bad habits because they might catch on. The first thing that we need to do is become a good role model to them. How can we discourage them not to smoke if we are smoking? That is not a good picture. When we say something is bad, they should not see us doing it or we risk being called hypocrites.

After that, we should keep them away from unnecessary advertisements. Advertisements can strongly influence the preference and drinking habits of teens. According to a recent study conducted by Boston University School of Public Health and Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, marketing exposure is a factor that leads teens to drink.    keys

Many Singaporeans accept that marketing or advertisement contribute to the preference and drinking habits of teens. It is not easy taking down companies that manufacture alcoholic beverages. The government is doing its best to curb alcohol use of teens. We cannot just buy alcohols here in Singapore unless we are 18 years and above. An identification card must be presented. What about adults who are addicted? They can buy anything they want if they only flaunt their identification cards. Well, this is another problem.

For now, let us focus on curbing alcohol addiction amongst our teens. Other than tips mentioned above, we can consider some more:

  • Explain: We need to have a meaningful talk with our teens. We should not leave the talking to their teachers. We can begin by the negative effects of alcohol physically and mentally.
  • Work together: Talking is not enough. After talking, what now? The best course of action is to work together and identify the risky situations when influenced by alcohol and its possible consequences.
  • Stress: Teens often ignore what we say especially if we do not reinforce it. We have to be firm when we tell them how we feel about alcohol and drugs.
  • Spend time: Teens often try something new because they think that their parents do not mind or will let them be. There are some studies that prove that children who spend more time with their parents are less likely to indulge in alcohol or drugs.


Parenting Tip: Dealing with Different Personality Types  


As parents, we should not have favourites because every child is special in their own ways. We do not want a child drifting apart because we favour the other. No child is the same. Given this, the challenge here is to deal with different personality types. Dealing with different personality types is not easy here in Singapore knowing that things constantly change but we have to be persistent and positive.


All along, we heard some researches saying that birth order determines our child’s personality. We have to forget this and think that the order does not influence our child’s personality traits. We should focus to things that we can control. If we determine and learn how to handle the personality types of our children, our days will surely be smoother and better.

Here are some steps in handling the personality of our children:

  • Step 1: Identify the demeanour of the child. Our children have different demeanours and we have to identify it so we will know how to proceed. Our easy-going children will prove easier to potty train than those who are fearful. For our fearful children, they seem to be stubborn and unwilling to participate. This kind of personality will only encourage us to join them and will be more resistant as time goes by. We should not over stimulate them.


  • Step 2: We will not have problems with our easy-going children but if we have a fearful child, sending him to school will be challenging. We have to plan ahead and make it stick. For example, days before leading to preschool, we can introduce him to the idea and assure him that we will be there all throughout.
  • Step 3: We have to stay away from labels. Our child may hear bad things about him outside but when he is home, we should not emphasize it. If we label him, he will feel stigmatized and he will only prove to the world that he is really that. Labelling is damaging.
  • Step 4: Appreciate them. No matter what they are, they are God’s gifts so we should treasure and appreciate them. If we have a fearful child, we will feel jealous to other moms with easy-going ones but it does not mean that our children are not unwanted.

Understanding our children may be hard despite the same genes and blood but a harmonious relationship is possible. Let us check on our children and never let them stray. Our children are unique and we should not try to change them but with the right empowering and encouraging, our relationship will be fruitful.


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